The Anti Anti-Aging: Age-Loving

I don't know about you, but I'm tired of all the "anti-aging" products and regimens. What is so wrong with aging? It is literally impossible not to age. For a product to be labeled anti-aging is a complete fallacy. We are aging, every moment. And you know what? This is a good thing. It means that we are growing, changing, regenerating. Our cells die, and we create new ones. I am all for embracing this instead of trying to fight it.

What can we do with all these new cells in our body? Your body will know what to do with them and with our inner dialogue, our every thought, we can help. What we say to our body, what we think, matters. It influences every cell of your body and what you put out to the world. It matters. You matter. And therefore, your thoughts matter.

I created Love Mine to fulfill a need I had to use a skin care line that focuses on this very aspect of health and beauty: that our thoughts matter and what we think of ourselves makes a difference in what we see in ourselves. If all I see in the mirror are wrinkles, I believe that will signal my body to create more wrinkles. If, instead, I focus on what I want to see — a glowing, dewy skin — then that is what my body will respond to. That is what I will see and love. The wrinkles won’t matter. (I happen to love my wrinkles now because you can see them best when I smile and laugh. Smiling and laughing is love itself.)

My inspiration for this has been Louise Hay, author of numerous books about how to heal your body and your life with positive thoughts. One of her practices for personal transformation is called the Mirror Principle. In her book, Mirror Work: 21 Days to Heal Your Life, she lays out a framework for practicing this principle for 21 days. I must admit that I have tried to do this and could not get past day four. Did I fail? Yep, so here’s what I did instead: I incorporated Mirror Work into my already established routine of skin care upkeep, which is a daily event.

In the morning, I put serum, eye cream, and sometimes lotion on my face. I thought, “Why not do some Mirror Work while I’m putting lotion on?” For me, this made all the difference in the world. It wasn’t a separate event I had to add to my daily to-do list; I folded it into what was already there. What has been transformative about this practice is I didn’t realize that overall, my thoughts to myself about myself were mostly negative. Thoughts like, “Wow, look at those dark circles under my eyes! I’m getting old!” Or, “Great, another round of break-outs on my 42-year-old face. Awesome.” “What!? Why do I now have chin hairs?!” Yeah, I know. Pretty bad.

I started catching myself going toward these thoughts and I shifted them. It was difficult at first and now that I’ve been doing this for several months, it’s much easier. I’m not always good, but I am catching myself quicker and going toward the positive thoughts. “I love how my face is glowing today.” “I love how rosy my cheeks are after a refreshing shower.” “I love how this lotion makes my skin feel silky and soft.” Does this sound cheesy? Yep. And it works.

I will also say that I don’t always take the time to do this and I can tell when I don’t. Some days, I just slap the serum and lotion on and rush out the bathroom because my girls are banging on my bedroom door. Just two more minutes of peace, please!

Most days I’m rushing. When I slow down, take time for myself, honor myself, mine the love within — I am always grateful I did.

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